Even if not syncing it to a place where it’s used (which would indeed be disaster), any change to the database would be recorded in the database, so it would never be fully in sync.
It’s odd but that’s how it set up when installed it and created the share. It used to be it synced fully as well, but the last few months I had gotten consistent sync conflicts.
Just delete the shared folder from within st, then move all your personal files out of .config to a custom directory that you will share, just leaving in .config the keys, the certs, the xml file and the index dir+content.
A .name dir is seldom a personal data dir, mainly a config dir when created by any setup program