I have private relay started with -pools="".
In both clients i setup Sync Protocol listen address to relay://aa.bbb.ru:22067/?id=dddddW-ddddd-ffff-dddd-ddddd-fffff-ffff-fffff
Also i clear Global and Local Discovery, and Set Using relay
But this clients not see each other? What i doing wrong?
You need to setup the explicit address to connect to (address field in the device editor window), which in your case is a relay.
You cannot make them connect via a public relay if you are not using discovery, as you will not know which relay (out of the many) the other side is connected to.