This has really nothing to do with Syncthing, but since the topic is about Windows, FreeFileSync is open source, uses shadow copies to deal with locked files, and supports one- and two-way sync of local folder pairs. It also has an option to do real-time synchronisation. It does not support delta sync though, so it is not suitable for synchronising giant files, which change often.
For simple one-way sync, the built-in robocopy will usually do the job, although it cannot copy files in use. It also has switches like /mon and /mot to stay in background, monitor the source folder for changes, and constantly update the destination.
That would also be interesting for me, since I currently have 10 folders on my servers, which I exchange “crosswise”. Since I luckily have more than one server, no problem. But what if it wasn’t? And if one of the two fails, I have also the problem.