I do not have time to mess with my vps server. But I am doing local lookups and so far running it as root cli seems to take care of some of the issues already, my files are updated instantly almost which has never happened with the gui version. Maybe the gui version is having issues with user space processes, not sure.
I also have no out of sync files anymore. It sounds like most of my nightmares are resolved in a second. However I will keep testing it.
And the best part is that I can just kill the process in the shell so I wont need to worry about zombie libsyncthing.so