Timeouts, data socket sizes, win 8.1 64bit

Probably the same issue as described here:

Ideally your Syncthing nodes should be able to establish a direct TCP connection which would give you better performance and would solve the issues with quic.

Did you follow the docs and forward port 22000/tcp on your router?

https://docs.syncthing.net/users/firewall.html#port-forwards